Back in January, I went to a conference in Toronto (you can read about it here) where I learned a lot about the company I work with, business techniques, and about myself. A topic that really hit home with me during our training was self-talk. By definition, self-talk is “the act or practice of talking to oneself, either aloud or silently and mentally” according to Collins English Dictionary.

Now this is going to get a little personal, but has anyone ever used negative self-talk on themselves? Because I certainly have. It’s a real thing, and I believe it can also be a huge issue for some people. Often times, we truly are our own worst enemy. Our self-talk could be preventing us from accomplishing our goals and taking risks that could potentially have a huge reward!


As I have mentioned before, I have an amazing support system and I consider myself to be very blessed. However, there have been times where not only was I feeling distanced from my biggest supports, but it was also crucial for me to pick my own self up and turn my negative self-talk into positive self-talk.

When I was 16 years old, I learned a technique to help turn my self-talk positive and I want to share with you all. While I have found this technique to be extremely effective, how I came to learn it may not be the most traditional method of self-help research so please, keep that in mind. But what I like to call this little technique is the Mirror Talk.. patent pending 😉

All you have to do is follow these three easy steps:

Step 1- Place yourself in front of any reflective surface, preferably a mirror.

Step 2- Give yourself a sincere compliment but say it aloud.

Step 3- Repeat Step 2 until you have you have replaced your self-doubt with self-love.

Sound familiar? Well basically how I came to learn this technique was through being a major Kate Hudson fan. I just cannot resist a rom-com starring Kate and Matthew McConaughey (swoon). You follow the above 3 steps and you’ve basically got yourself a scene right out of Fool’s Gold circa 2008. Seriously though, it works. There have been countless times where I have needed this technique. By following those steps, I have been able to turn my difficult days entirely around.

IMG_0118While there may not be a study being discussed to support this theory, I do believe that there is a strong correlation between our self-talk and the way we conduct business within our networking marketing company. Plain and simple, if you are down on yourself, you will not succeed, because guess what? You don’t even believe that you can!

I would wager a bet that if you change your self-talk to be positive, you could do things like approach that person you have always been too nervous to reach out to. You could set that crazy bold goal that doesn’t even seem achievable, then achieve it. The possibilities are endless and I do hope that you take some time to evaluate the way that you talk to yourself. It’s important to be kind not only to others but to yourself too.


Yours truly,

Melissa Alyse